A guest blog post written by TASK Graduate, Antonia Beamish (Edited by TASK).
I love to write about fear because it can be such a consistent companion in my life without me even realising it’s there.
That’s the way fear works, it can be really subtle, hanging out just below the current of consciousness so that we can’t see, feel or hear it. Instead, we’re just blocked in our life but we don’t know why.
Tend fears like weeds in a garden
Fear takes up sacred space in the garden of our minds, cluttering up our vision, distorting our reality and manipulating our sense of self. This is why I love tending to my fears like weeds in the garden, slowly uprooting them and tossing them away to make space for the new to come in.
When we know what our obvious fears are, it’s easier to deal with them. We can see them for what they are and take the necessary steps to work on them. Mine include the fear of the dentist, the fear of being trapped and a fear of horror movies.
Yet, what about the fears that hover just out of sight and mind, that aren’t so obvious? Perhaps it’s the fear of losing control, the fear of falling in love or the fear of success.
We aren’t so conscious of these because they’re much deeper rooted and often come from childhood, ancestral or past-life trauma. These are much more sneaky and tend to not let themselves be shown. These are often the ones we have to do some serious weeding on.
The light of consciousness
Before we look at those ‘bigger’ fears, let’s first look at the smaller ones that paralyse us in our everyday lives, stopping us from taking positive, inspired action, and instead root us into a place of stagnation and stuckness.
How many of us want to start a new project, build upon an idea, go in a different direction with our lives or create something new, but keep putting it off?
If we are resisting an action it’s normally because of the emotions it brings to the surface that we don’t want to deal with. And, the unpleasant tasks we delay, avoid and distract ourselves from are often rooted in fear.
All we need to do is identify what that fear is and then, through that knowledge, it often loses its power. Think of fear like the trolls that turn to stone in the sunlight. Bring the sunlight of your attention, understanding and compassion onto those fears and watch them lose their potency.
You don’t have to be perfect to start dealing with fear
From my experience, all procrastination is rooted in the fear of not doing it perfectly. So, watch out for the part within you that is always seeking perfection and know that it stems from not feeling good enough. This is why working on our self-esteem is so important.
Meet yourself where you’re at. Put the effort in but don’t put the pressure on yourself to make it perfect. For perfection is impossible and you will burn out trying to meet your self-imposed standards. Instead, address and heal the part of you that doesn’t feel enough.
When we let go of the high expectations and pressure we put on ourselves in an effort to prove our worth, life becomes much smoother and more graceful.
How to ride the energy of change
I recently had a beautiful Kinesiology session that helped me realise a fear I was carrying in my life around change. Kinesiology is so powerful, it brings to our consciousness things that we haven’t been aware of.
In the session, we addressed it, reframed it and gently let the fear go.
Within Kinesiology we understand that fear is usually stored in the water element, which is our bladder and kidneys. If you have symptoms in these areas, fear is going to be the first thing a kinesiologist look at. Yet, fear can also be held in different parts of the body, such as the adrenals, which are linked to deep stress and fear.
I realised that my lungs had been playing up because I was feeling grief around letting go of the person I was, to embrace the person I am becoming. This is something we don’t give enough attention to. We are all changing all the time without giving ourselves the time and space to grieve our past selves.
We all fear the anticipation of change because, as humans, we tend to like things to stay the same. It’s in familiarity that we find comfort and safety.
The reason we resist change is because we fear the unknown. However, once we accept the constancy of change, knowing that it is just an integral part of being human, it loses its power.
Riding the storm of change, and trusting that we’ll be carried in the currents and knowing that we’ll come out on the other side OK helps when dealing with debilitating fear.
3 powerful ways to release fear
- Read this amazing book – If you feel like you have a lot of fear in your life that’s making you anxious then I highly recommend reading this powerhouse of a book Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway which gives you a unique perception of what fear really is.
It’s quite simply life-changing.
- Talk about it – The second way is to speak about fear. Fear can grow in the darkness of our minds when we stay silent. I see this time and time again with myself and my clients. So, we need to bring it out into the light; by sharing it with someone we trust, writing about it or voicing it out loud even just to ourselves.
When you share the fear you realise that it has no power over you, and in Kinesiology we go one step further by releasing the fear from both your mind and your body so that you come out of the session feeling lighter, empowered and ready to take on the world.
- Just do it – As Nike says, just do it. Fear is so strong that we perceive it to be real. It creates real obstacles in our life that can be very hard to overcome but those obstacles are nothing but our imagination. So, sometimes we just need to walk up to that fear and move through it, to see that it’s not real.
And remember, every time you do something that scares you, your self-esteem grows immeasurably. So go do it and make yourself proud.
Antonia Beamish’s mission is to help you realign mind, body and soul through releasing unhealed emotional stress and bringing the light of awareness to your inner self with gentleness, love and grace.
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